Somewhere along the way, I’m pretty sure you’ve had that experience. The one where you know you need to break up with someone or something: your partner; your dry cleaner; your neighbor; even your job.
And then you have “the discussion.” You know the one I mean. The one that starts with, “It’s not you, it’s me.” This is usually followed by a string of stories . . . “I’m just not ready” . . . “I’m really picky, so that’s why your dry cleaners doesn’t work for me” . . . “I’d love to meet for coffee, but I’m too busy with my child/my work/my needlepoint.”
You get the idea.
And sometimes, that’s the easiest, safest, quickest way to play it.
But what if (gasp!) — it’s not them. And it really IS you.
What if you are outgrowing that person or situation? What if it’s holding you back from what you know your purpose to be, and the goals you’ve not yet achieved? Whether it’s your practice as a physician, your yoga class, or your best-friend-since-high-school, something’s gotta give.
The way I see it, you have two choices: stay or move forward.
Once you know the truth, staying causes a little bit of chipping away at your True North. Every day.
It’s like eating too much sugar when you’re diabetic. You know it’s bad for you. But old habits die hard.
Here’s the stronger option: Own your power and move forward.
Staying where you are is an option. And sure, you may not die from it (or you could), but you may die a little inside each day if you choose to do nothing.
The first thing to do is to begin. To do this, sit down and write out the things you are doing today that are holding you back.
- Are you staying with the same work schedule and losing some joy in your world every week?
- Are you procrastinating taking up that new hobby or pastime because it takes too much effort to begin?
- Are you just treading water?
One of the reasons people fail to accomplish their goals is due to lack of accountability. Moving forward means taking action on the things you say you want to do.
As a life coach, I’ve learned that accountability is one of the fastest ways to make desirable change a reality.
A lot of people think you can find accountability with a friend or family member. And that works for a little while. But things get sticky when you’re using your personal relationships to help you move toward your goals.
I’ve invested in myself by hiring many coaches over the years. And I’m not one bit regretful of that. Imagine what would happen if you had clear goals and it was someone else’s mission to make sure you get from point A to point B? You get there a lot faster than meandering and just talking about it. That’s the beauty of accountability.
Now try this: List three goals you want to reach by this time next year. And next to each one, write what you think is holding you back. Share them in the comments below – I’d love to hear.