None of us have a handle on perfecting self-acceptance. Even those famous movie stars who try to convince us that they wake up looking gorgeous don’t look like that until they have professional help before their photo shoot!
For everyone, self-acceptance has layers, don’t you think?
And it varies each day, as to which roles we feel pretty good about and which ones we don’t.
We may feel that as a spouse or partner, we score at least a “B Plus,” after spending a chunk of our day catching up on household chores or indulging our partner in a movie or sporting event that really didn’t float our boat. But then, on that same day, we might give ourselves a lower score on the “work mode,” when we think back to a less-than-perfect showing for our patient, co-worker or supervisor.
How can we have good results with self-acceptance more days than not?
Wow. Great question. Where’s that Magic Genie when you need him or her?
The key is actually a reverse of that Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
In our topsy-turvy world, we’ve started to treat others better than ourselves. Which can be okay. Until it’s not.
Extend to yourself the same kindness, the same patience you would extend to a friend, a neighbor, even a stranger.
Cut yourself some slack. Regularly.
Remove some of the screens you hide behind to reveal the real inner you.
Remind yourself how many great things there are about you — daily.
Give yourself the benefit of the doubt.
And then watch others join in the Love Fest!